You Can’t Pour from An Empty Cup

A friend and I would often meet for breakfast on Friday mornings. It was nothing fancy- just a quick meal and coffee. This was time I thoroughly looked forward to as it was time for both of us to catch up- not only to find out what is going on in each other’s life, but to disconnect from the daily grind, the hustle and bustle of life, family, and work.

As we sat, we talked about not only how well the week had been going, but how we really were doing. We realized that those in our lives were doing well but we were tired. Sure, we were happy with the good work we had done but we didn’t feel much like celebrating. How is it that we could help and give to some many others but we were left feeling completely drained?

Does this sound like you? Have you ever felt like this? How often do you feel like that? How often are you giving to everyone else and leaving little for yourself? How many days do you feel like you have a ‘LOW BATTERY’ signal flashing? What is the cure or fix?

So often, we live our lives “running on fumes” or as I like to say, pouring from an empty cup. We give so much to others that we tend to have nothing left for ourselves at the end of the day. We begin to notice changes in our mood: more irritable/angry, easily frustrated, or have health concerns such as headaches/body aches. If we are not careful, these changes can affect our health and relationships. It is important that we are aware of this and take steps to take care of ourselves. Here are a few simple steps to take care of yourself and save some of your energy.

1. “NO is a COMPLETE SENTENCE.”. Often, we want to help everybody but that is simply not possible. It is okay to say “no” and not give any further explanations. Some people will continue to ask because you have been willing to help in the past, but remember that your “no” is saying “yes” to yourself.

2. Share the Load. Often, we have coworkers or friends who are willing to help if we let them. Allow others to get in on the action and give yourself a break. Many will be glad you asked for help and you never know if you are allowing someone to share their talents/gifts.

3. Take Breaks. Take ten (10) to fifteen (15) minute breaks throughout the day to take mindful actions. This can include deep breathing, meditating, prayer, or listening to music or an encouraging message. Doing these things can clear negative energy and allow you to refocus, let go of frustrations, and focus on what is important — -you.

4. Get Physical. You can also use this time to be physically active. Most days of the week, make it a plan to be active at least 30 minutes a day. This can include walking, dancing, running, an exercise, yoga, and so much more.

5. Put Yourself First. Remember to get the sleep and rest your body needs. Use your vacation days. Treat yourself to a day of pampering. Spend time with your loved ones and friends who feed the good energy into you. Make yourself your top priority.

This are all easy, low-cost, low-risk suggestions. Of course, follow your doctor’s recommendations before starting any exercise regimen. If you slowly integrate these into your day, you will slowly see your battery signal recharge.

Wishing you all good health!

Erika Brooks